We do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of men. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, you have to pretend that you’re not, especially in public otherwise you will ‘emasculate’ him.’
But what if we questioned the premise itself— why should a woman’s success be a threat to a man? What if we decide to simply dispose of that word? And I don’t think there’s an English word I despise more than ‘emasculation.’
HUSBANDS EPISODE 1: Appropriate is Not the Word
Was watching this earlier, and it’s been on my mind…
Okay, Johnny’s birthday is coming up in about 6 weeks. What’s special about this one, is that Victor’s birthday is two days after (a dude of Russian heritage born on the 4th of July? Obviously he’s Johnny’s husband…)
“Show Johnny the Love” - a Facebook group that has given Johnny many gifts over the years — including a gift card to the container store for his wedding, lol, is celebrating these two special birthdays by making a donation to the Garden State Equality Action Fund, which is specifically used for political efforts to legalize marriage equality in New Jersey.
One of Johnny and Victor’s dearest wishes is to have their marriage recognized by the state in which they live. Our gift will be given to Garden State Equality in honor of their wish. Because it will be so beautiful to be able to say that, for their birthdays, fans helped them be legally married in New Jersey.
We’ll be sending a personalized card announcing our donation and some flowers to the newlyweds. Wanna join us? Donations are being accepted via *Paypal only* - please send to email@example.com
DEADLINE is Friday, June 22nd!
Photo © David Ingogly
“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.” ― Oscar Wilde